Is Your Internet Dating Profile Good Enough?

Your Internet dating profile is such an important part of the online dating process! Don't take for granted the 'art' of writing an online dating profile.

It's not as simple as slopping together a few words with improper grammar and spelling errors, throwing an old pic up of a barely decipherable human face, and some boring headline.

Women are not just looking at WHAT you are saying, but also HOW you are choosing to say what you want to say. i.e. Are you writing your profile to 'one' woman or are you writing to the 'ladies'?

They are not just looking at WHAT you look like, rather HOW you choose to present yourself through pictures. i.e. Are you goofing off in your photos, or do you look more mature?

Remember, you DO have competition. Don't assume that she will fall for you, if she just gives you a chance to have a conversation, or a meet up in person.

If you don't impress with your profile for dating online right from the get go, you won't have much luck getting out of the gate.

-xo Kat

3 Steps to Asking Her Out Online

If you've been chatting it up with a woman online, it may be time to ask her out for that anticipatory dating online first date. After all, you're probably not just looking for online pen pals.

However, knowing the RIGHT time for when to ask out a woman from online dating is crucial. Do it too SOON or in the wrong WAY, and you won't get your chance to meet her.

There are NO shortcuts when it comes to asking a woman out from online dating. You must execute every step or you'll be stuck at a dead end.

If it sounds like you only get one chance to ask her out, often times that's all she'll give you!

To meet a woman in person that you met online, follow these 3 steps to get her to agree to a dating online first date:

1. Get Her Attention

This seems obvious, and that's because it is.

You have to start-up a conversation with a woman first. Even if she was the one that messaged you first, she will probably wait for you to ask her out.

Sure there are many women that ask a guy out first. But the women that are truly desirable, they don't need to ask men out. Nor do they want to.

To get these types of women that other men want, you have to get her attention.

This is why you have to have an awesome profile and kill it with your first message, and subsequent ones!

2. Build Trust and Rapport

Women know that there are many creeps online. It only takes one negative experience with a weirdo to get their guard up. In this sense, you have to reassure her that you're just a normal, nice guy.

Coming out and saying you're NOT crazy sort of raises red-flags. It's because she will wonder why you thought to say that. It's best to avoid stating things in a negative way, and to highlight your strengths instead.

Treat her like you would one of your girl friends. Act like a gentleman and she will know she can trust you. Develop rapport over some good conversation.

Knowing how to attract and chat with women online, will not only have you talking to tons of women, but they will also agree to meet with you!

3. Move Things Offline Smoothly

There's nothing worst than the smell of desperation. And women can smell this from a mile away. No one likes someone that is over-eager.

Take things at a smooth place. Let her believe you're a desirable guy and not just waiting for the FIRST person that comes along and takes an interest in you.

This is why not rushing into asking her out is so important. But you don't want to wait too long either, otherwise she will think you're not interested enough.

She also wants to feel special, and not like she's just some girl on a list. You won't know what is unique about her, unless you chat with her.

You have to give her the impression that there is something about HER, that is making you want to get to know her more. And not that she is a living and breathing pulse.

You have to get a feel for the right time to ask her to go from online to offline. With experience, this will come to you more naturally.

If you follow these 3 steps for when to ask women online out on a date, you will be in a MUCH better position to get them to say YES to meeting you.

After all, isn't the whole excitement about online dating, the chance to meet NEW and COOL women that you normally wouldn't get to meet in your day-to-day?

Get out there!

-xo Kat

3 Tips for Attracting Women Online

It is so important when creating a dating profile for Internet matchmaking sites that you do not fib. What's the point?

Don't think you can wine and dine the woman you are taking out, and that she won't notice that you are actually 5 years older, 4 inches shorter, and 10 pounds bigger than your profile stated!

Women do it too, don't get me wrong, usually with their weight.

How would you feel if you met someone whose pictures were a little deceiving, or they even s-t-r-e-t-c-h-e-d the truth just a little?

Would you 'fall' for her in person, ignoring the fact that she held back something of importance? Or would you feel sort of deceived, and wonder what else she was not being truthful about?

You see, you lose more than you gain (pun not intended) when you aren't honest with someone from the get go.

Trust is very important to women, and if you start off with a little lie or lie by omission, they will wonder what else you have up your sleeve.

Not to mention, people like confidence and when you fib, you show that you're not comfortable enough with who you are.

You don't want to meet someone that you have interest in, only to find out that had you been honest with her in the first place, she would have given you a shot!

Least of all be called a jerk!

I was chatting it up with one guy that was actually 4 years older than his stated age.

But what bothered me more is that he never brought it up!

I only knew that he was older than what he stated 'cause I recognized him from the same site a couple of years earlier!

Let's just say he was embarrassed when I called him on it, and I was turned off that he wasn't confident enough to be straight-up.

I asked him why he went about online dating that way and he said exactly what I thought - he was trying to appeal to younger women.

I totally understand, but we didn't end up going through with our date. No, thanks.

Another guy I went on a date with ended up being shorter than the height stated in his profile - we're talking like 3 inches! I mean I was literally towering over him in heels. Sheesh!

The moral of the story is:

1) Have an honest profile - The write-up and the pictures.

2) If you fib a LITTLE in your profile, at least let her know the truth soon into the conversation - Before you meet in person is better.

2) Be opened minded in your search criteria - You never know who you could meet.

I came across an article stating 8 or 9 out of 10 people lie in their profile for dating online!

As I mentioned, typically men exaggerate their height and women under-report their weight.

It's supposedly subtle differences that you wouldn't notice in-person.

But heck, I notice!

What do you think? Is it okay to lie on your profile for dating online? What is acceptable? What isn't?

-xo Kat

How NOT to Deal with Online Dating Rejection

I don't know about you guys, but if you're anything like me...rejection just plain sucks!

Getting rejected by women when online dating kind of gets to your ego, 'cause it's not like they even REALLY know who you are.

They don't know how you are around your family, friends, colleagues, neighbors, etc.

And you KNOW this, but you can't help but let the sting get to your ego.

Sound familiar?

Then dealing with rejection from women when online dating has you hold back, when you shouldn't even let it get to you!

I was recently messaging back and forth with some guy online.

Things were going well with conversation, so I decided to add him to my Facebook.

I don't like to add people from online dating onto Facebook, and that is just my own personal choice.

So with this one guy, I guess I was feeling risque, lol, by adding him.

As I checked out his profile on there, I noticed that I wasn't as interested as I thought I would be.

I recognized a girl that I saw on the online dating site we both use (yes, I sometimes check out women's profiles, out of curiousity!), and was thinking, Woah! If he added her, then we're definitely not a match. Her personality and mine are miles apart.

Not to mention, I wasn't into his style of conversation with others. As I checked out his 'wall', I wasn't too impressed with how he talks 'cool'. Not my thing.

Sooo, because I realized I wouldn't be interested in him, I decided to take him off as a Facebook 'friend'.

I didn't get a chance to message him about it, before he sent me a message saying he noticed. I then go to send a message to explain and found out he had blocked me.

Well, to make a bit longer of a story shorter - let's just say, this guy took the meaning 'crazy' to a whole new level. ;)

He just could NOT handle the rejection.

Basically, he came up with a really LOW type of insult. He kept messaging me insults, and even when I blocked him, he created a new account online JUST so he could bash me!

And the weird part about it is that he was trying to add me back on as a 'friend'. How does somebody put you down, and still want to know you? Weird.

Anyways, he finally went away.

Phew. lol

-xo Kat

Online Dating Tip For Men - Your Profile IS Important

Hey guys,

Your profile for dating online is pretty standard across all matchmaking sites.

You definitely don't want to take this part of the online dating experience lightly.

Think what matters most are your pics?

Think again.

You may focus on what women look like, before considering if you should contact them. However, women look beyond the pictures.

They are interested in WHO you are as a person, and this is conveyed in your profile, or lack thereof.

Don't lose out on an opportunity to have all those women contact you, simply because you chose not to spend those extra few minutes refining your profile.

Even worst, think a woman will respond back simply 'cause of what you wrote in that first message to her? Nope, she will take your profile into consideration too!

Don't underestimate the power of a good profile for dating online.

-xo Kat

Online Dating Tips for Men

Online dating is definitely not as stigmatic as it once was.

Not only that, there are TONS of women looking for men online, and the beautiful women also. If you haven't started dating online yet, now's the time to start. Lots of fish in the sea...

Spring is here, people want to get the spring cleaning done. They want a change - out with the old and in with the new. If you are new to online dating, there is a lot to know. You often won't get that second chance to make that all important first impression, so be as prepared as you can and learn how to attract women online - use it to your advantage.

If you have been online dating already and feel as though you are going in circles, and need better and more results with women - don't give up! Refresh your energy, gain your positive spirits back, and don't feel like a fool all because you think you could use some online dating tips for men. So what if you are seeking advice, the women don't have to know!

There are a ton of matchmaking sites out there, but you will want to go where the women go. The more women that are signed-up on the site you are on, the more choices you will have. The more choices you have, the better the chance you have of finding your match, regardless of what you are looking for.

It is important that your profile stands out to women. Don't take this for granted. What you have in there says A LOT about you - put some time and effort into this. Also, if you have an appealing profile and great pictures - you will stand out from your competition. Not to mention, women will be the ones to message YOU first which is always cool.

Besides your profile and pictures, your online dating first message to a woman can either make it or break it with her. It will either make her ignore you or write you back. The more women you have replying to your messages, the more conversations you can have going. Conversations lead into opportunities to meet women in person - which is what you're aiming for, right?! Honestly, pay attention to WHAT you are saying and HOW you are saying it in your profile and emails.

Remember, women want to feel special. They don't want to feel like just another number. Obviously, they know you're likely trying to chat up women left, right and center. They just don't want to know that. The key is to make the woman you are trying to attract feel as if she stands out. Sure this takes up more of your time and effort. But it leads to greater success to get what you want from the woman you are really interested in.

The more prepared you are in the online dating arena, the better your results with women will be. Attract women online effectively which will practically guarantee that more women will notice you and be interested in you. The rest, as they say, is history.

Looking for women online is easy, once you know what you are doing right.

-xo Kat

Get Women Online with This Secret Tip

Do you feel frustrated when you send off messages to women and they don't get back to you? Do you feel even worse when they delete your first message?

You will want to avoid the types of online dating messages that will not work for the ladies, and will make you more frustrated to boot.

It can be tough on the ego when all you feel is rejection after rejection of your messages. You assume that she isn't attracted to you, or you're just not her type in some way.

But does it occur to you that it is the WAY you approached her to begin with that ultimately turned her off?

Yes, you could be attractive, charming, have a great write-up, many interests...and still wonder why you aren't drawing the women in.

Either you think that it is HER problem that she's not replying back to your message, or you clued in that perhaps it is your message to her that isn't coming across so well.

Maybe you know that your approach isn't quite working, but you're not quite sure what to do about it. Especially, when you sometimes get responses.

But how does it feel to come across a woman that you are REALLY interested in and you lose out again? Perhaps it's time to figure out what it is that isn't working so effectively to get women to reply back.

You just know that they would take a liking to you, if the women would just give you a CHANCE. Ah-hah, my friend, you have to EARN this. ;)

Simply the act of sending her a message is NOT good enough. It may be for YOU when a woman sends you a first message. You may not care so much what is in the message, but the fact that she wrote you FIRST is what matters. 

Women work differently (surprise, surprise ;). A woman won't give you WHAT you want, until you give her what it is she NEEDS. She wants to feel that you NOTICED her DIFFERENTLY than you did any other woman online.

SO how do you do this? You pay attention to her whole profile and then you write something you haven't written to the other ladies. This means not being dull and generic. What this means is being creative and witty. Personalizing your approach will do a lot to improve your online dating success. Try it.

-xo Kat

Writing Women Online - Online Dating Advice for Men

Hey guys,

Think about that first online dating message you send to a woman online, not after you've already sent it - but BEFORE you've hit that send button! ;)

I think you know that I do the online dating matchmaking site thing myself. If you didn't know this, now you do. ;) How else would I be able to help you out so well like I do...heh, heh. :) I find it fun and intriguing to connect with men online on a matchmaking site.

 

I always find it both exciting and interesting when I receive new messages in my inbox. It's exciting because someone took notice of me, but it's also interesting 'cause I'm wondering what it was about me (my pictures or profile or both) that encouraged the guy enough to write.

A peculiar email I received the other day was something that caught me off guard, and reminded me why I am here to help you on this blog.

You see, what first started off as a seemingly normal message turned into a dreadful interaction. Sometimes you can make a decent first impression, but can you sustain it?

So, this guy compliments me on my hair and I thought that was nice, so I sent him a quick message back just to thank him. The reason it was a quick message was because I wasn't interested in him (based on his profile and the one pic). If I had been interested, I would have asked him a question.

He then sends me a second message saying that....hmm, let's just say something he said was sexually-related to hair and being with another woman. Immediately, I was turned off. I wasn't even interested in the first place, but I am appreciative of polite compliments I get - hence, why I thanked him. Now, this message was ridiculous and uncalled for. What if I were interested before?..I surely wouldn't be now.

I was wondering if he knew just what kind of effect he was making with such a rude comment. Did he think I would see that he is desirable to women? What was it about saying that some woman he was with had better hair than me, after he had already complimented me on my hair?!

I never asked him his opinion on my hair to begin with! How do I get a compliment and then get put down? I can see that a guy maybe would do this, if I simply deleted his nice message or blatantly rejected him. But this guy had no reason to be 'mean', considering I DID thank him!

Of course I deleted his rude message to me. Then the most bizarre thing happened...He writes yet another message and this time says that he does like my hair though. I was thinking what the?!? This guy has no clue! All I could think was how many times has he done this before? Perhaps not the exact same scenario, but going about meeting women in this kind of way.

I even had to share my little incident with a few other guys 'cause I was taken aback. I mean sometimes I get some odd messages, but this one was something else. I was hoping that he CHOSE to sabotage himself, 'cause I couldn't comprehend that he could just be THAT clueless.

Speaking of an odd first online dating message - That same day a guy asked me if he could take me to his psychology class for show and tell. When I inquired as to what he meant by that, the only answer he had was that he was trying to be different! Yes, VERY different.

I'm confused. I don't get the humor in it.

Read. Delete.

Hey guys, don't worry if you've written some stuff before like these guys did, in your first messages to women - I am here to the rescue! I am telling you OUT LOUD what women think about you on online dating, but will NOT tell you! :)

Stay tuned.

-xo Kat