Online Dating Tip For Men - Your Profile IS Important

Hey guys,

Your profile for dating online is pretty standard across all matchmaking sites.

You definitely don't want to take this part of the online dating experience lightly.

Think what matters most are your pics?

Think again.

You may focus on what women look like, before considering if you should contact them. However, women look beyond the pictures.

They are interested in WHO you are as a person, and this is conveyed in your profile, or lack thereof.

Don't lose out on an opportunity to have all those women contact you, simply because you chose not to spend those extra few minutes refining your profile.

Even worst, think a woman will respond back simply 'cause of what you wrote in that first message to her? Nope, she will take your profile into consideration too!

Don't underestimate the power of a good profile for dating online.

-xo Kat

Ashley Madison Consumer Reviews

If you haven't already heard of Ashley 'Cheating' Madison, she is not necessarily your girl next door type. She is becoming very popular to men and even women...well, some women anyway.

She's extremely recognizable and very trusted. She is definitely unique. She is married and definitely looking. And so is everyone else that is using her.

If you haven't already heard of Ashley 'Cheating' Madison, she is not necessarily your girl next door type. She is becoming very popular to men and even women...well, some women anyway.

She's extremely recognizable and very trusted. She is definitely unique. She is married and definitely looking. And so is everyone else that is using her.

You see, Ashley Madison is not just one woman - it is an online dating service targeting married people that want an affair with other married folks. A married dating service for attached men and woman looking to have an extra-marital affair, boasting over 5 million worldwide users. Heck, you can even be single to join.

Ashley Madison has been featured on Oprah, Larry King, 20/20, Ellen, Dr. Phil and Howard Stern. Despite advertising for the site being banned from the Super Bowl and Toronto streetcars, it doesn't fail to get members to its site.

With the slogan 'Life is Short, Have an Affair', it's as if it guilt's you into seeking fulfillment in an area of your life that you seemingly have no control over. Whether you are a man looking for a married woman or for a woman that wants a sugar daddy, the site 'guarantees' an affair.

Never mind selecting long walks on the beach, or meeting up for coffee as interests, rather the site has 'skinny dipping' and a 'secret love nest' as the least risque interest choices on the site.

Though online dating sites can't really guarantee an online affair, the service is expanding worldwide. In fact, the Ashley Madison CEO's goal is to have 100,000,000 million members.

What causes people to seek out an affair? What causes people to get involved with those already attached?

Whenever a man (as this is a blog for men) seeks the excitement of sex outside his own marriage, cheating becomes part of that scenery. If you get caught up in 'fantasy-land' and get out of touch with the 'real-world', you inevitably choose to delve into risky business.

Whatever happened to good old-fashioned marital values? Communication is something that can be learned. Passion can be re-built.

How about looking into your wife's eyes and asking her, "How can we build our passion back up?" Is this too boring nowadays?

I'm not married, but I do hope I would find someone that would naturally turn to me for his sexual desires and his frustrations. I would want someone that could tell me everything about what he is thinking and feeling, so I could try and provide for him.

Often times cheating isn't about the sex, and this is something that I hope my partner would be willing to share with me also. I believe in prevention over treatment.

I know as a single woman, I would never go for a man that was attached. I wouldn't respect a man that would be willing to cheat on his partner. He would just do the same thing to me. My self-esteem is high enough that I don't need to infiltrate on a woman's relationship with her man. Let alone if there are children involved.

There are enough single people out there. I say work on your marriage, or get out.

Maybe I'm just old-fashioned.

As always, I'd love to know what you think!

-xo Kat

Top Internet Dating Sites - What's the Catch?

A friend forwarded an article to me that was recently published pertaining to people 'crashing' matchmaker sites. On general dating sites, it happens all the time where people tend to put their best foot forward and not really represent their true selves.

For instance, I went on dates with guys that were quite shorter than their stated height, and I even discounted my added heel height.

Women supposedly tend to not be so truthful about their weight.

However, when it comes to niche matchmaking sites where all the members are supposed to own up to the same criteria, it's becoming common that 'crashers' are joining.

For instance, an online Jewish dating site is for well, you guessed it, Jewish folks.

There are people that have signed up to that site that aren't even Jewish, yet the assumption would be that they are Jewish.

You would think a matchmaking online service for single parents would simply have members sign-up that were indeed - parents.

However, there are people that sign-up on a single parent dating website that don't even have children. Instead, they post pictures of themselves up with their nieces and nephews, for instance.

Even a site targeting affluent men and the ladies looking for that lifestyle doesn't mean that all the men on there are made of dough.

So what is the motive for people to 'pretend' to be someone they're not?

It could be that they think the criteria is not all that important to others, or they are selfish and want what works for them.

Regardless of the reason, 'faking it' can only work for so long.

I always think integrity is best. Besides, what if you set off on the 'wrong foot' and find that you are really into a woman, only to have her want nothing to do with you once she finds out the truth - which as the examples in the article show - is only a matter of time.

Let me know what you think. Is it fine to join any matchmaking site, or should you fit the specific criteria?

-xo Kat

African American Online Dating Service

There are quite a few Black singles sites, and African American dating is just one example of a niche that is covered by the online dating market.

These sites cater to people interested in Black singles, such as other sites cater to single parents, or older folk, or Canadians, or even the wealthy bunch.

Some Black singles sites are free, while others charge a minimal feel to cover the costs of the incorporated site features, such as chat rooms and instant messaging.

An important feature with the sites is attention to safety and security. Dating online sites are committing themselves to protecting your privacy, 'cause the Internet can easily be privy to your personal information.

You don't have to be Black to access dating sites for African Americans, as many accept interracial dating.

When looking to join a site, one should consider the search options, type of communication channels offered, the level of importance of security and privacy, quality profile standards, cost affordability, and quality of user-experience.

Black singles sites carefully screen members and highly encourage members to report inappropriate behavior. Often, online dating tips are provided to enhance members' dating success.

Online dating is more than just a trend. African American dating has a distinct culture that brings people closer together, even on an international scale.

There are various testimonials on how exciting and effective these Black singles sites can be, as there are many success stories. Prior to joining, it would help if you carefully go through the testimonials to see whether or not a particular website is for you. At the end of the day, it will be your preference that matters.

You can go through as many websites as possible to ensure that when you join a particular African American online dating service, you get your money’s worth and more importantly, you get to meet your future lifetime partner.

-xo Kat

Sex on the First Internet Date

So I get a second message from a guy I sort of kept my eye on, though it took him a little longer than I expected for him to get back to me. I'd say it was about a week between his first and second message to me.

I was surprised to hear from him 'cause it's not like I really had been thinking about him. I was also pleasantly surprised 'cause of yet another nice picture of himself that he sent to me. ;)

He basically states that he's 'surprised' at how many women on the site were just looking for sex! I mean he wrote it in a way that sounded like he's not at all that impressed to get 'offers'. (I'm thinking other guys would KILL to not be able to complain about this, heh, heh.)

Don't think I'm naive to think some guys wouldn't be 'playing it up'. I know better. ;) Let's just assume that it wasn't his thing. I actually find it appealing when a guy expresses his interest in wanting to meet women for more than the physical pleasures! Perhaps I'm a 'typical' woman. ;)

Naturally I was curious by what he meant and told him that I was also surprised that a lot of women seemed to be looking for no strings action on the site. I mean he's an attractive guy. He doesn't post his pictures up, instead gives them privately.

Anyways we messaged back and forth and he said how he recently 'caved in' to a woman that was a master at the art of seduction. Curious me asked for details and oh boy, did I ever get them!

Let's just say that a first date dinner with someone he met online led to him going back to her place and getting attacked. I use the word 'attacked' 'cause he wasn't sounding like a willing recipient, rather someone that was giving in to a woman wanting and initiating sex!

Anyways, our banter was kind of fun, but it got me thinking.

How many of the guys that I went on dates with were just as 'attacked'? Is online dating and first date sex more common than I thought? Is it more women than men expecting - initiating - attacking - seeking out sex with someone they JUST met through online dating?!

Then it's almost like a call for some statistics went out to the Gods 'cause what do I find...

A survey regarding some online dating survey stats and boy was I sort of taken aback.

You see, I didn't think that online dating and first date sex was any more prevalent than first date sex where two people met the traditional way.

I was shocked to find out that 1 in 3 women who meet men online have SEX on the FIRST encounter!

It just seemed so high. Can the same be said that 1 out of 3 women who meet men OFFline have a one-night stand? Or is it something about the world of the Internet that is causing people to be more promiscuous?

My assumption would be that women would be more likely to have sex on the first encounter with a guy they met in the bar or at a party or something like that - rather than with a guy they met online out for coffee or dinner.

Usually when a woman meets a guy out when she's partying, she's having some drinks to help her relax, her friends are helping her feel confident, she's getting to know the guy, there's body language and all that good jazz that helps her feel the guy out.

But before an online dating first date there was what?? Emails, Messages, Maybe the phone. And unless the first date had drinks involved or she was just naturally comfortable - the connection would be much slower than that which you would create at a party.

Or would it?

These survey results surprised me. Not only is sex happening frequently using online dating, but it sounds like many women are into having sex with a man they just met - online.

4 out of 5 women do NOT use protection surveys reveal!

And if this is the case, which I'm hoping this survey where I'm getting this data from is some kind of hoax, it tells you just how far someone is willing to go with a 'stranger'. And stupidly at that to risk their own health (guys too!).

Then I got wondering if every 3rd guy I date has had online dating first date sex. I've never been good at math. But if it takes that THIRD girl to get sex on the first encounter then isn't that saying it takes every THIRD guy as well?!

And if 4 out of 5 encounters were between people possibly spreading around STD's, doesn't that mean that 80% of the guys I date from online perhaps have an STD?!

Somebody please enlighten me...

-xo Kat