Get Better Luck with Women Online - A Simple Yet Effective Tip

I write a lot about online dating profiles. It kind of reminds me of how you would want that perfect resume to impress those employers. You want that perfect dating online profile to impress all those women.

The profile is a very important part of the online dating process, whether you are looking for women to message you first, or you want them to reply back to your messages.

Not to mention the online matchmaking sites won't let you proceed until you have your profile up and running, and they usually require a minimum amount of sentences on your profile.

If you're coming up blank on what to write on your first profile for online dating, or maybe you feel you need to change it up for better results with women - it pays to take a look at sample dating profiles. 

How you can do this is by setting your search options to look at male profiles. Yup. This will give you some great ideas - on what to do and more importantly what not to do.

The more you're looking to attract beautiful and desirable women online, the more you have to step it up on creating a great profile.

Focus on creating a perfect profile and interesting emails to entice women online.

-xo Kat

12 BAD Online Dating Profile Headlines

Okay, maybe you've been on a matchmaking site already and have taken a look around at women's profiles. If you have, surely you've come across some plain, unique, interesting and boring headlines for online dating.

I wanted to share some of my own headlines, from my own dating online adventures.

So without further ado, I present to you Kat's Collection Of Guys' *REAL* online dating profile headlines - Here is the countdown from least worst to most worst, and with my own commentary to boot! :)


12. Life's a garden. Dig it?

I don't nhoe.

11. Never play leap frog with a unicorn

Thank you for the warning, I almost went ahead with my plans.

10. Dust bunnies breed like rabbits

Really? I thought it was just a bunch of dust.

9. The odds are good, but the goods are odd

Nah, I think just odd.

8. If I'm on this it's probably laundry day

How many pairs of underwear do you need to go through everyday??

7. Male seeks female

This one definitely needs to have the copyright symbol next to it.

6. Looking for good-hearted man

Fair enough, but you do know you're browsing for chicks, right?

5. I am not certified to remove asbestos

Shucks, and I was just about to message you.

4. I might not be too cute...but my dog is

I might not be too cute, but my grandma is.

3. I'm on a horse

Please tell me this is some kind of movie reference, 'cause I don't see a picture with a horse, and even if I did...

2. Happy birthday to the ground

Please will someone make friends with him. Pleeaaase.

1. Constructor of temporary erections

Better something than nothing...I guess.

What did you guys think? Would you have ranked it differently? Commented differently?

-xo Kat

Is Your Internet Dating Profile Good Enough?

Your Internet dating profile is such an important part of the online dating process! Don't take for granted the 'art' of writing an online dating profile.

It's not as simple as slopping together a few words with improper grammar and spelling errors, throwing an old pic up of a barely decipherable human face, and some boring headline.

Women are not just looking at WHAT you are saying, but also HOW you are choosing to say what you want to say. i.e. Are you writing your profile to 'one' woman or are you writing to the 'ladies'?

They are not just looking at WHAT you look like, rather HOW you choose to present yourself through pictures. i.e. Are you goofing off in your photos, or do you look more mature?

Remember, you DO have competition. Don't assume that she will fall for you, if she just gives you a chance to have a conversation, or a meet up in person.

If you don't impress with your profile for dating online right from the get go, you won't have much luck getting out of the gate.

-xo Kat

How to: Dating Online 'Cause It's Fun!

Just like anything you try for the first time, you have both feelings of excitement and apprehension.

You are looking forward to trying out something that you haven't done before, especially if this is something that you think will give you a thrill.

At the same time, you are hesitant 'cause you don't know what to expect.

When I first started the whole dating online thing, I didn't know what to expect.

I didn't even want to put a picture of myself up 'cause like with swimming you want to dip your toes in to check the temperature of the water first.

I was excited to meet people, in a way that I hadn't before. But also, I was nervous at the stigma that dating online brought.

Because I wasn't taking the concept of going on the Internet to meet guys too seriously, I was able to be more relaxed with my approach.

Had I signed-up to a matchmaking site thinking that I wanted to find a boyfriend, I don't think I would have had the courage to start out.

Usually when you lower your expectations for something that you are anticipating, the outcome is better than what would have been.

How many times have you worked yourself up in the past thinking that you would have a great night, a great trip, or whatever - only to discover that you didn't have as much fun as you had hoped for?

On the contrary, if you don't think about how much fun you will have, and just go with the flow, you usually have a way better time than you could have imagined.

Online dating works the same way.

If you go into it with an open mind, and not with an agenda, not only will you have a better experience - but you will also face less online dating rejection by women.

Usually when you are disappointed with an experience, it's because you had somewhat of an agenda already made-up in your mind.

So hey -

No expectations, no stigma, all fun,

Okay?!

-xo Kat

3 Steps to Asking Her Out Online

If you've been chatting it up with a woman online, it may be time to ask her out for that anticipatory dating online first date. After all, you're probably not just looking for online pen pals.

However, knowing the RIGHT time for when to ask out a woman from online dating is crucial. Do it too SOON or in the wrong WAY, and you won't get your chance to meet her.

There are NO shortcuts when it comes to asking a woman out from online dating. You must execute every step or you'll be stuck at a dead end.

If it sounds like you only get one chance to ask her out, often times that's all she'll give you!

To meet a woman in person that you met online, follow these 3 steps to get her to agree to a dating online first date:

1. Get Her Attention

This seems obvious, and that's because it is.

You have to start-up a conversation with a woman first. Even if she was the one that messaged you first, she will probably wait for you to ask her out.

Sure there are many women that ask a guy out first. But the women that are truly desirable, they don't need to ask men out. Nor do they want to.

To get these types of women that other men want, you have to get her attention.

This is why you have to have an awesome profile and kill it with your first message, and subsequent ones!

2. Build Trust and Rapport

Women know that there are many creeps online. It only takes one negative experience with a weirdo to get their guard up. In this sense, you have to reassure her that you're just a normal, nice guy.

Coming out and saying you're NOT crazy sort of raises red-flags. It's because she will wonder why you thought to say that. It's best to avoid stating things in a negative way, and to highlight your strengths instead.

Treat her like you would one of your girl friends. Act like a gentleman and she will know she can trust you. Develop rapport over some good conversation.

Knowing how to attract and chat with women online, will not only have you talking to tons of women, but they will also agree to meet with you!

3. Move Things Offline Smoothly

There's nothing worst than the smell of desperation. And women can smell this from a mile away. No one likes someone that is over-eager.

Take things at a smooth place. Let her believe you're a desirable guy and not just waiting for the FIRST person that comes along and takes an interest in you.

This is why not rushing into asking her out is so important. But you don't want to wait too long either, otherwise she will think you're not interested enough.

She also wants to feel special, and not like she's just some girl on a list. You won't know what is unique about her, unless you chat with her.

You have to give her the impression that there is something about HER, that is making you want to get to know her more. And not that she is a living and breathing pulse.

You have to get a feel for the right time to ask her to go from online to offline. With experience, this will come to you more naturally.

If you follow these 3 steps for when to ask women online out on a date, you will be in a MUCH better position to get them to say YES to meeting you.

After all, isn't the whole excitement about online dating, the chance to meet NEW and COOL women that you normally wouldn't get to meet in your day-to-day?

Get out there!

-xo Kat

3 Tips for Attracting Women Online

It is so important when creating a dating profile for Internet matchmaking sites that you do not fib. What's the point?

Don't think you can wine and dine the woman you are taking out, and that she won't notice that you are actually 5 years older, 4 inches shorter, and 10 pounds bigger than your profile stated!

Women do it too, don't get me wrong, usually with their weight.

How would you feel if you met someone whose pictures were a little deceiving, or they even s-t-r-e-t-c-h-e-d the truth just a little?

Would you 'fall' for her in person, ignoring the fact that she held back something of importance? Or would you feel sort of deceived, and wonder what else she was not being truthful about?

You see, you lose more than you gain (pun not intended) when you aren't honest with someone from the get go.

Trust is very important to women, and if you start off with a little lie or lie by omission, they will wonder what else you have up your sleeve.

Not to mention, people like confidence and when you fib, you show that you're not comfortable enough with who you are.

You don't want to meet someone that you have interest in, only to find out that had you been honest with her in the first place, she would have given you a shot!

Least of all be called a jerk!

I was chatting it up with one guy that was actually 4 years older than his stated age.

But what bothered me more is that he never brought it up!

I only knew that he was older than what he stated 'cause I recognized him from the same site a couple of years earlier!

Let's just say he was embarrassed when I called him on it, and I was turned off that he wasn't confident enough to be straight-up.

I asked him why he went about online dating that way and he said exactly what I thought - he was trying to appeal to younger women.

I totally understand, but we didn't end up going through with our date. No, thanks.

Another guy I went on a date with ended up being shorter than the height stated in his profile - we're talking like 3 inches! I mean I was literally towering over him in heels. Sheesh!

The moral of the story is:

1) Have an honest profile - The write-up and the pictures.

2) If you fib a LITTLE in your profile, at least let her know the truth soon into the conversation - Before you meet in person is better.

2) Be opened minded in your search criteria - You never know who you could meet.

I came across an article stating 8 or 9 out of 10 people lie in their profile for dating online!

As I mentioned, typically men exaggerate their height and women under-report their weight.

It's supposedly subtle differences that you wouldn't notice in-person.

But heck, I notice!

What do you think? Is it okay to lie on your profile for dating online? What is acceptable? What isn't?

-xo Kat

How NOT to Deal with Online Dating Rejection

I don't know about you guys, but if you're anything like me...rejection just plain sucks!

Getting rejected by women when online dating kind of gets to your ego, 'cause it's not like they even REALLY know who you are.

They don't know how you are around your family, friends, colleagues, neighbors, etc.

And you KNOW this, but you can't help but let the sting get to your ego.

Sound familiar?

Then dealing with rejection from women when online dating has you hold back, when you shouldn't even let it get to you!

I was recently messaging back and forth with some guy online.

Things were going well with conversation, so I decided to add him to my Facebook.

I don't like to add people from online dating onto Facebook, and that is just my own personal choice.

So with this one guy, I guess I was feeling risque, lol, by adding him.

As I checked out his profile on there, I noticed that I wasn't as interested as I thought I would be.

I recognized a girl that I saw on the online dating site we both use (yes, I sometimes check out women's profiles, out of curiousity!), and was thinking, Woah! If he added her, then we're definitely not a match. Her personality and mine are miles apart.

Not to mention, I wasn't into his style of conversation with others. As I checked out his 'wall', I wasn't too impressed with how he talks 'cool'. Not my thing.

Sooo, because I realized I wouldn't be interested in him, I decided to take him off as a Facebook 'friend'.

I didn't get a chance to message him about it, before he sent me a message saying he noticed. I then go to send a message to explain and found out he had blocked me.

Well, to make a bit longer of a story shorter - let's just say, this guy took the meaning 'crazy' to a whole new level. ;)

He just could NOT handle the rejection.

Basically, he came up with a really LOW type of insult. He kept messaging me insults, and even when I blocked him, he created a new account online JUST so he could bash me!

And the weird part about it is that he was trying to add me back on as a 'friend'. How does somebody put you down, and still want to know you? Weird.

Anyways, he finally went away.

Phew. lol

-xo Kat

Online Dating Tip For Men - Your Profile IS Important

Hey guys,

Your profile for dating online is pretty standard across all matchmaking sites.

You definitely don't want to take this part of the online dating experience lightly.

Think what matters most are your pics?

Think again.

You may focus on what women look like, before considering if you should contact them. However, women look beyond the pictures.

They are interested in WHO you are as a person, and this is conveyed in your profile, or lack thereof.

Don't lose out on an opportunity to have all those women contact you, simply because you chose not to spend those extra few minutes refining your profile.

Even worst, think a woman will respond back simply 'cause of what you wrote in that first message to her? Nope, she will take your profile into consideration too!

Don't underestimate the power of a good profile for dating online.

-xo Kat

African American Online Dating Service

There are quite a few Black singles sites, and African American dating is just one example of a niche that is covered by the online dating market.

These sites cater to people interested in Black singles, such as other sites cater to single parents, or older folk, or Canadians, or even the wealthy bunch.

Some Black singles sites are free, while others charge a minimal feel to cover the costs of the incorporated site features, such as chat rooms and instant messaging.

An important feature with the sites is attention to safety and security. Dating online sites are committing themselves to protecting your privacy, 'cause the Internet can easily be privy to your personal information.

You don't have to be Black to access dating sites for African Americans, as many accept interracial dating.

When looking to join a site, one should consider the search options, type of communication channels offered, the level of importance of security and privacy, quality profile standards, cost affordability, and quality of user-experience.

Black singles sites carefully screen members and highly encourage members to report inappropriate behavior. Often, online dating tips are provided to enhance members' dating success.

Online dating is more than just a trend. African American dating has a distinct culture that brings people closer together, even on an international scale.

There are various testimonials on how exciting and effective these Black singles sites can be, as there are many success stories. Prior to joining, it would help if you carefully go through the testimonials to see whether or not a particular website is for you. At the end of the day, it will be your preference that matters.

You can go through as many websites as possible to ensure that when you join a particular African American online dating service, you get your money’s worth and more importantly, you get to meet your future lifetime partner.

-xo Kat

Online Dating Meeting?

I find it kind of amusing when guys call a first date from online dating a "meeting".

It sounds more business when it's called a "meeting". Like calling it a date would mean you're that much closer to the alter. Essentially, a date simply means getting to know someone new! As long as you think of it that way, no pressure!

Perhaps calling the first date a "meeting" eases any pressure, or takes off some expectations. The funny thing is it's mainly guys that call it that. Ha. Women prefer dates. I know I do.

Regardless if you call it a date or a meeting, you do want to get a sense of what the woman is "looking for" before you meet her in person.

You should both be clear about your intentions before you meet up, so that way you avoid any disappointment around expectations on your meeting..I mean date.

Relax and have fun!

-xo Kat

Online Dating Tips for Men

Online dating is definitely not as stigmatic as it once was.

Not only that, there are TONS of women looking for men online, and the beautiful women also. If you haven't started dating online yet, now's the time to start. Lots of fish in the sea...

Spring is here, people want to get the spring cleaning done. They want a change - out with the old and in with the new. If you are new to online dating, there is a lot to know. You often won't get that second chance to make that all important first impression, so be as prepared as you can and learn how to attract women online - use it to your advantage.

If you have been online dating already and feel as though you are going in circles, and need better and more results with women - don't give up! Refresh your energy, gain your positive spirits back, and don't feel like a fool all because you think you could use some online dating tips for men. So what if you are seeking advice, the women don't have to know!

There are a ton of matchmaking sites out there, but you will want to go where the women go. The more women that are signed-up on the site you are on, the more choices you will have. The more choices you have, the better the chance you have of finding your match, regardless of what you are looking for.

It is important that your profile stands out to women. Don't take this for granted. What you have in there says A LOT about you - put some time and effort into this. Also, if you have an appealing profile and great pictures - you will stand out from your competition. Not to mention, women will be the ones to message YOU first which is always cool.

Besides your profile and pictures, your online dating first message to a woman can either make it or break it with her. It will either make her ignore you or write you back. The more women you have replying to your messages, the more conversations you can have going. Conversations lead into opportunities to meet women in person - which is what you're aiming for, right?! Honestly, pay attention to WHAT you are saying and HOW you are saying it in your profile and emails.

Remember, women want to feel special. They don't want to feel like just another number. Obviously, they know you're likely trying to chat up women left, right and center. They just don't want to know that. The key is to make the woman you are trying to attract feel as if she stands out. Sure this takes up more of your time and effort. But it leads to greater success to get what you want from the woman you are really interested in.

The more prepared you are in the online dating arena, the better your results with women will be. Attract women online effectively which will practically guarantee that more women will notice you and be interested in you. The rest, as they say, is history.

Looking for women online is easy, once you know what you are doing right.

-xo Kat

Dating Online Profile Tip - Get Women to Notice Your Profile

Don't take for granted the importance of spending some time crafting something interesting for your dating online profile.

Your profile is more important than you might think to help you stand out to the ladies.Don't underestimate the value in creating a great profile, regardless of who messages who first.

Take a look at other men's profiles to get a feel for different styles. I have done this by looking at different women's profiles. I like to write my own profile first before comparing it to others', so that way it's as authentic as possible.

Get a feel for what you like and don't like when you view other guys' profiles. Chances are many women will feel the same way as you do.

Your online dating profile is like your billboard into who you are and whether someone should stop by to take another look. The more people that stop by, the better chances you have toward finding a great match.

Dating online profiles that work best combine content, personality, confidence and a sense of humor.

Go get 'em!

-xo Kat

Writing Women Online - Online Dating Advice for Men

Hey guys,

Think about that first online dating message you send to a woman online, not after you've already sent it - but BEFORE you've hit that send button! ;)

I think you know that I do the online dating matchmaking site thing myself. If you didn't know this, now you do. ;) How else would I be able to help you out so well like I do...heh, heh. :) I find it fun and intriguing to connect with men online on a matchmaking site.

 

I always find it both exciting and interesting when I receive new messages in my inbox. It's exciting because someone took notice of me, but it's also interesting 'cause I'm wondering what it was about me (my pictures or profile or both) that encouraged the guy enough to write.

A peculiar email I received the other day was something that caught me off guard, and reminded me why I am here to help you on this blog.

You see, what first started off as a seemingly normal message turned into a dreadful interaction. Sometimes you can make a decent first impression, but can you sustain it?

So, this guy compliments me on my hair and I thought that was nice, so I sent him a quick message back just to thank him. The reason it was a quick message was because I wasn't interested in him (based on his profile and the one pic). If I had been interested, I would have asked him a question.

He then sends me a second message saying that....hmm, let's just say something he said was sexually-related to hair and being with another woman. Immediately, I was turned off. I wasn't even interested in the first place, but I am appreciative of polite compliments I get - hence, why I thanked him. Now, this message was ridiculous and uncalled for. What if I were interested before?..I surely wouldn't be now.

I was wondering if he knew just what kind of effect he was making with such a rude comment. Did he think I would see that he is desirable to women? What was it about saying that some woman he was with had better hair than me, after he had already complimented me on my hair?!

I never asked him his opinion on my hair to begin with! How do I get a compliment and then get put down? I can see that a guy maybe would do this, if I simply deleted his nice message or blatantly rejected him. But this guy had no reason to be 'mean', considering I DID thank him!

Of course I deleted his rude message to me. Then the most bizarre thing happened...He writes yet another message and this time says that he does like my hair though. I was thinking what the?!? This guy has no clue! All I could think was how many times has he done this before? Perhaps not the exact same scenario, but going about meeting women in this kind of way.

I even had to share my little incident with a few other guys 'cause I was taken aback. I mean sometimes I get some odd messages, but this one was something else. I was hoping that he CHOSE to sabotage himself, 'cause I couldn't comprehend that he could just be THAT clueless.

Speaking of an odd first online dating message - That same day a guy asked me if he could take me to his psychology class for show and tell. When I inquired as to what he meant by that, the only answer he had was that he was trying to be different! Yes, VERY different.

I'm confused. I don't get the humor in it.

Read. Delete.

Hey guys, don't worry if you've written some stuff before like these guys did, in your first messages to women - I am here to the rescue! I am telling you OUT LOUD what women think about you on online dating, but will NOT tell you! :)

Stay tuned.

-xo Kat

Avoid THIS Mistake with Your Online Dating Messages

Hey guys,

Promise me, you'll never do this with your dating online emails! I can't tell you how annoyed I am when *this happens* and it happens all too regularly. It's such a crucial mistake - One where you lose a lot of women this way.

It's seemingly becoming all too common on dating online sites. If you're lazy online then you won't have as much, if any, luck with women, compared to if you put in the time and effort.

Promise me something...

That you won't do this with your online dating emails any longer.

It's the copy-and-paste message epidemic that's going around. It's reaching critical mass. Not only are guys using the template approach, they are becoming much more sneaky with it. Pretending to personalize it when they're really NOT. And it's obvious.

The copy-and-paste, lazy-man approach may work for you, but then when that time is right and there's that perfect '10' woman that you want to connect with....ya, let's just say, you don't want to mess that one up.

Think about how special (or not) I feel to get an email that is obviously a-one-size-fits-all message. There's me with my looong profile and I get a half-ass message. It doesn't even count as an email at all. It's frankly spam.

It gets worse. The template message is so short that there isn't even any punctuation in it! ;)~ Not only that, it's asking me ('cause clearly the guy is not!) to go for coffee.

Funny, I think, didn't it JUST say on my profile that I've NEVER had a coffee in my life, so we probably wouldn't do that for a first date!

Well, if spammy-message-man bothered to read my profile and knew at least basic English, he wouldn't be blushing this very instant. He also wouldn't have received a "direct" message from me stating what I just said here.

But it gets worse, yes, A LOT worse.

I get a message back, with complete disregard for my pointing out that my profile wasn't read, asking me something irrelevant - I Read Delete.

I then, believe it or not, had to give my same response to another guy who did the same thing!! Yes, he asked me out for coffee when I said I've never had coffee in my life on my profile! (I know what a few of you smart-ass ones are thinking - maybe he just meant a drink, a juice, a chat, a kumbaya dance, whatever - but nope. I can read between the lines, and this was easy 'cause there weren't any! And frankly, I know what's up. Hey, I created this blog for you, didn't I? ;)

This is the mistake I don't want you to make! Please save other women the frustration I went through with these online dating messages.

If you are writing her, clearly you want a response back! Well, stop losing the ladies over a lame copy-and-paste message and write a great online dating message.

Personalize it!

It shows you care. It shows respect. Heck, it makes you look like you give two-cents, even if you only give one, or none.

If anything, it's worth doing, if just so you don't look like a fool.

So....READ the profile. :)

-xo Kat

Online Dating Tip for Valentine's Day

It's only 4 more days until Valentine's Day. But who's counting?

Traditionally, it seems like a bigger deal for the ladies to be out with someone special on this romanticized day of the year. However, you can't say, as a guy, that it isn't nice being with a woman on Valentine's as well.

I'm sure you would agree that you would rather be around femininity than a sweaty dude. You'd probably want to be around perfume than have to smell your own cologne.

What I am here to tell you is that all hope is not lost if you don't already have plans for this Valentine's day!

Don't worry about looking like a fool by asking a girl out online at the 'last minute'. As long as you don't come across as desperate, or feeling sorry for yourself, she'll probably take you up on your offer!

Like yourself, she would rather have last minute plans than no plans at all.

Put no pressure on it or no expectations and surely, you both will have a good time.

And if you don't end up having a date on Valentine's, don't fret. - You still have another 364 more to impress! ;) 

-xo Kat

Welcome To Online Dating Help For Men Blog

Welcome to my How to: Online Dating Help for Men Blog in which I seek to help men with how to: dating online. I provide advice and tips on online dating for men from a WOMAN. :) Stay a while whether you are old-school to dating online or haven’t even tried it yet.

Having gone from a complete refusal to meeting somebody over the Internet, to writing and re-writing an online profile, to going on many dates with virtual strangers, to finding a long-term relationship..(twice)…I do believe that dating online is a great avenue for narrowing down your search for dating and relationships.

So-called success with online dating didn’t come easy. I had to go through many of my own trials and tribulations. For instance, what was the person contacting me REALLY wanting? Are those pictures recent? Have they been genuine so far? Are they going to be the same way in person as they were over the Internet?

It was sooo different going dating online than it was for me to simply smile away in the bar chatting with my girlfriends. When I’m out it’s never my style to go up to men. I don’t even make eye-contact. That’s just me and that’s how I’ve always been.

So now that I’m online, the guys can’t SEE me ’cause I have no picture up. I contact them. But then this got me wondering if that’s what they want. I know they would want to contact me first, but how can they sift through all those pictures and find my picture-less profile.

I contacted guys and what did I know – It worked! Now you may think I’m being silly or playing games. Neither of those. I’m very genuine. All it is is that I’m a bit old-fashioned.

But eventually when I became more comfortable dating online and was getting ‘used to it’, I put my picture up. Then I put more up. What I did notice this time around though is that when I contacted the guys FIRST, I did NOT receive the same warm and happy replies like I did when they didn’t have a picture of me.

Okay, so now I was confused.

I wasn’t about to give up though. The whole experience of dating online was so NEW and I was enjoying this new challenge.

I just knew that I needed to be honest with myself, with who I AM. I decided just to step back a little and do what works for me.

I felt most comfortable having the guys find me ‘first’ and message me ‘first’. This worked more for my personality-type anyway.

However, I did have to be enticing with my user name, headline, profile and pictures, while at the same time being TRUE to who it is I was and how I wanted to portray myself.

As long as I was being honest with myself with what I was LOOKING for with dating online and WHO I wanted to meet, I knew that dating online would be another fun experience for me.

And it was...and is! :)

-xo Kat